How To Kill Anxiety Around Your Crush
Love? I often wonder if love actually exists. If love actually does exist, how in the world am I supposed to go about finding it?
When you read books, watch movies and articles online they all say the same thing, you have to put yourself out there.
But when you feel like a five or a seven on a good day and your crush looks like a 10 on his worst day. How do you put yourself there? How do you let yourself feel vulnerable, look ridiculous and get the guy at the same time?
Look, I'm no love guru, but I figure, if I help you guys, I'll probably end up helping myself too. So when you get anxious about talking to your crush think about this post in particular and remember you're not the only person who turns bright red when you think about that special someone.
Here are a few ways to remember your crush won't kill you, and who knows maybe he or she will wind up being the person you've dreamt about.
1.) Look Good, Feel Good.
Look I get it, we don't all look like Jennifer Lopez or Micheal B. Jordan. Guys and gals I'm here to let you know it's perfectly okay! Most people feel good when they keep their hygiene in check, wear clothes they make them look good and feel good and when they exercise regularly to stay in shape. Hit the gym, brush your teeth and eat your vegetables. You'll feel great about yourself and in turn, the people you feel great about will feel great about you too.
2.) Your Crush Isn't a God, I Promise.
Okay guys, so there's a guy I'm kinda interested in, to say the least. He's a blondie, acts super polite, drives a pick-up... actually I'm going to stop right there, on the off-chance that he reads this post. Regardless, this guy looks like he gives the best hugs, and acts like someone out of a movie. I'm not going to lie when I'm around him, I feel awkward, I clam up and nothing comes out the way I want it to. Still, I realize, I really don't know all that much about him in the first place. If I did know about him, the real him, I may not like him as much. So, keep that in mind, next time you idolize your crush. Think about someone, who has had a crush on you. Sometimes people who don't know you, develop feelings for you, or so they think. However, we know that they don't know the messed up, depressed thoughts we think at 2 am. They haven't seen us face deep in a burger, so they don't know and neither do we. In fact, none of us are that special we're all just people. So relax we'll all end up okay.
3.) Nervousness IS Natural.
Don't worry! We all feel nervous from time to time. Sometimes having a nervous feeling helps. Okay, now I know I sound like a crazy person, but think about it this way. When you HAVE a spark with someone you normally feel somewhat nervous. When you don't feel nervous at all, it's typically a sign of little to no attraction. Now I don't know about you, but I don't want any romantic relation to someone I have no attraction to. Would you? Nope, I didn't think so.
4.) What if it doesn't work out with this guy/gal?
I hate to give you the bad news, but you probably won't end up with the person you're currently dating, or the one after that, especially if you're a teenager like myself. Look, I promise its good news! We have some many opportunities and so many chances to get it wrong. Even better, we live in a world with 7.53 Billion people, and that number continues to grow. So stop freaking out, wondering if that one guy/gal doesn't like you, just go talk to them.
5.) Quit living in your shadow.
FYI, you won't do anything you want to do if you do not step out of your comfort zone. If you don't step out of your zone, you won't get that fancy car, you won't end up as the big CEO of that company and you won't end up with the person of your dreams. So relax, we've got this.
I hope you guys liked this post! I'll have a new YOUTUBE post soon about handling yourself around your crush soon. Let's kick anxiety in the BUTT. Woo!